By: “How To Survive As A Woman”
In view of the latest developments regarding Ray Rice, men and women are confused with this couple for one reason or another.
This is a open letter to “all women living in an abusive relationship” I received from one of those concerned men. And he says…
Permanently written within the pages of history are magnificent achievements of today’s woman. As men, we stand to admire the hard work and tremendous progress made by women over the history of mankind.
Today’s woman is a person of power and influence. In nearly every field of human endeavor, today’s woman has not only come from behind to stand side by side with man; but now is in the forefront, taking the lead and mastery over an unlimited range accomplishments.
She has step away from the stove, put down the mops and crochet needles and has achieved success far beyond even her own expectations.
The days of referring to women as second class citizens are gone forever. We now listen closely to a woman’s perspective, opinions and ideas.
Man now looks at women as not simply nurturing care givers, but as esteemed colleagues in the advancement of mankind’s own future.
Today’s woman is ready to take her in history, among the names now carved in stone and in our hearts: (only to mention a few)
Susan B. Anthony
Saint Joan of Arc
Shirley Temple Black
Juana Ines de la Cruz
Billie Jean King
Juliette Gordon Low
Queen Elizabeth I
3 Things You Should Ask Yourself
Let’s pause for a moment to reflex on you as an individual woman of today.
Consider the following:
Do you see yourself among these women of greatness?
How happy will you be with the answers? I will admit, in my research online, I was shocked and dismayed by the reasoning responses from the “the 10 reasons why a woman will stay in an abusive relationship.”
And I was even more taken back by the television interviews of other women, stating that they could understand and sympathize with the abused woman and they validate her reason in staying in an abusive relationship.
Ladies please, get a hold of your reasoning powers. Don’t be among those who would vigorously stand up for women’s rights in public, in society and in government, and then coward down to a man behind closed doors.
Don’t call these women of achievement and greatness fools by your own conduct and inconsistencies.
If you do so, you would be setting back, and placing women in the ages of darkness, where ignorance and superstition overwhelmed the intellect of men.
A man’s love and devotion is not worth your self-respect, dignity, and most especially your life.
All men are NOT abusive. The vast majority seek to provide, protect and cherish, in a manner worthy of praise and honor.
The abuser on the other hand is certainly manifesting signs of mental deficiencies, in need of treatment, counsel, and assistance.
It is not within a man’s right to abuse anyone, because true place is to secure the sacred gift of life. Not to be violent, but vigilant for goodness and for what is decent and correct.
Links and Helplines Which May Be Useful:
The Freedom Programmer – Runs courses on Domestic Abuse Awareness as well as training programmers for professionals. They now also have a home study course for perpetrators of domestic violence. I cannot recommend this course any higher – give it a try! For more information read our page about the Freedom Programmer.
Blain Nelson’s Abuse Pages – A website created and maintained by an ex-abuser. Very descriptive pages on the cycle of abuse especially; his feelings and denial; ‘his’ and ‘her’ stories – a MUST READ for anyone who is concerned that they may be abusive!
RESPECT – The National Association for Domestic Violence Perpetrator Programmers and Associated Support Services. RESPECT hold a full list of Perpetrator Programmers in the UK (including those that accept self-referral), together with counselors, etc trained in this field.
Telephone for details on 0845 122 8609 or email firstname.lastname@example.org .
Hitting Home – Part of the BBC Hitting Home website on Domestic Abuse. This link will take you straight to the page “Help for Abusers/Perpetrators”.